Friday, January 13, 2012

Risky Business

So here's a thought I had today: the problem with being insecure is not the being insecure, it's being insecure about being insecure.

Think about it. In life, if you're putting yourself out there at all -- which could mean anything from being honest to chasing your dreams to having kids --  you're very very likely to be insecure, because you have given yourself something important to lose.

No, the real trouble comes when you begin to believe you're not supposed to feel insecure, that there's something wrong with you.  It leads to a hundred varieties of compensation, like trying to get the approval of others to make you feel more secure (it doesn't), or pursuing other things that you think will make you feel comfortable (they don't).

In the end, all you can do is put yourself out there and be yourself. If that self is afraid, nervous, uncertain -- well so be it.  It probably means you're taking a risk. And that's a great thing.